Job Search Tips from Dr. Phil

This video is a couple of years old but it's just as relevant today.

It came from the Dr. Phil episode, "When She's The Breadwinner" but the advice is for anyone that needs to find a job.

It's practical, it's useful and it includes approaches that apply just as much to when you 'have' to find a job as to when you 'want' to find a job.

Take a look, it's only just over 3 minutes...

Anything relevant you can use here?

Have you contacted everyone you know in your network?

Have you joined Linkedin?

Have you thought about the skills you have? Not just the job you are looking for?

Have you got other tips you can share?

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- Karen

The Power of a Handshake

Have you ever been caught in that awkward moment when a group of people are being introduced, the men enthusiastically shake hands with each other and then they turn around and nod at you?

Many people (both men and women) aren’t quite sure whether to offer their hand to a woman a not. Men usually don’t think twice about this ritual with each other.

Where it was once used to bind a contract, nowadays a handshake is an accepted business formality. It is used as a greeting, a farewell, to express congratulations and as a sign of goodwill when an agreement has been reached.

A handshake can be seen as the first step of building rapport and developing a relationship as it provides a point of connection.

Men, unless they see each other every day, often greet each other with a handshake. Even in a social setting, a handshake is the accepted convention and establishes rapport. It’s an accepted business practice.

When women don’t shake hands this sets them apart. If they have to debate with themselves whether to shake or not to shake, before you even started talking, the gender difference will be unsaid but on the table, loud and clear.

 A handshake can help women establish parity with male colleagues.

To avoid this situation, offer your hand in all situations where men would shake hands. 

Do this with both men and women. 

For men, it takes away the guesswork. With women, it establishes business rapport. You’ll present yourself as confident and professional. Be the first to offer your hand when you meet others, so that there is no time for confusion.

Here are a few more quick tips for handshaking:
  • Make eye contact when you offer your hand – this aligns your body language with the connection you are making
  • Hold your hand straight out from your wrist – stops your handshake from being too soft and prevents you making a vice like grip
  • Shake 2-3 times
  • The handshake should come from your elbow as you move your arm

And smile! 
Do you shake hands in business or social situations? How has it helped you?
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Decide to apply for a job you want.

When you see or hear about a job you want, apply for it!

Don't make the mistake of holding back thinking that "if they really wanted you they would come and offer it to you". 'They' are usually busy and don't have the time to look for candidates. Managers expect people to be managing their own careers and apply for the roles they want.

Or that "I don't have 3 million percent of what they want so I won't apply" logic. It's not logical. None of the candidates is likely to be perfect. Recruiting managers decide on who is the best fit. Don't take yourself out of the running before the race has even started.

Compare a role with your existing skills, knowledge and experience. If you've had to learn something new in the past and you've done that successfully - is there any reason why you wouldn't be able to do that again?

If you've learnt new things in the past, can you do it again?

Take counsel from your network and mentors, review a role in line with your career plan and if it stacks up - and it's what you want to do - apply!

Have you held yourself back from applying for a job you wanted?

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- Karen

Confucius does it again!

This is the goal!

Many of us feel boxed into the one we have. Or the one we think we should have. Or the one we can't afford to leave because of our financial commitments.

All valid reasons.

But it doesn't mean we can't be working towards the one we want.

Try completing this sentence... "What I would love to be doing is...." what can you do to get there?

Break it down into small manageable steps - put it in writing and start working on your actions.

They want to work though... as they are taking you to where you want to be...

How have you achieved something you really wanted before? (Hint! if the method worked for you before..try it again!)

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- Karen

10 Questions for Sheldon

Well the questions in this video are actually for Jim Parsons.

But they are about his character Sheldon!

Good questions get great information and I think there are some great questions and some fascinating answers in this interview from the Time, 10 Questions series.

When we ask good questions we get information that we would not have if we had not asked them in the first place.

Seems pretty obvious, doesn't it?

But so tempting to assume we know information.

Or ask questions that lead to the answer we've already worked out.

But it's not only about asking the questions. It's also about listening to the answers.

Watch the video and see how little the interviewer actually says...

Who knew that about Jim Parsons and Star Wars?


How important do you find questions in your communication?

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- Karen

P!nk said it....

Rockstar P!nk said this in an interview with Chad Kennedy from Teen Scene Magazine in an interview to promote her "I'm not Dead" album.  

She went on to say...

"Knowledge is power. It's a cliche, but it's true. The more your know, the more straight up you can stand for what you believe in"

Knowledge, truly is Power when it comes to your career. (They're my words, not P!nk's)

And I haven't found a faster or more efficient way to gain knowledge than to ask questions.

What do you think?

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- Karen